36 Relationship Goals and Habits for a Healthy Marriage

How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage

36 Habits of Marriages That Succeed and Flourish

The health of your marriage is dependent on you. You shouldn’t get married and then think—well, this is it. I no longer have to go on dates, or get to know my spouse.

Your mindset should be quite the opposite. What defines a healthy marriage is that you are always striving to get to know one another on a deeper level every single day. If you think this is hard work, you’re right. But in the end, you will be happier, knowing that you did everything you could to make your marriage succeed and last.

Relationships, whether it’s with a friend or a family member, is something you have to work at in oder for it to grow—there is a give and take that needs to take place.

God instilled in us a desire for companionship; community. But because humans are so fragile—and the world, and what it was intended to be was changed—relationships have distorted from us wanting to fulfill one another’s needs, to wanting our own needs fulfilled.

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Since the dawn of sin, relationships as God intended them have taken a turn for the worse. Loneliness will be the next epidemic of our current culture, as social media has eliminated our need for healthy human interaction. But even though we may not realize it, we still NEED one another.

We desire to have that, because it was instilled in us, and is apart of us. To recognize this is the first step in knowing what it takes to have a healthy marriage, instilled with achievable and healthy goals.

In order to have a healthy marriage, it takes work and the intentionality to do what is necessary. You can’t go into your marriage thinking the other person is there to meet your needs and make you happy—you will be quickly disappointed.

Apart from your spouse, you should be content with your own life—not contingent on the happiness of your spouse.

If you’re struggling in your marriage, then this concept is not easy to grasp. But believe me when I say…

When you are healthy, your marriage is healthy—and visa versa.

For couples to succeed in this day and age, they need to make a conscious effort to continue to get to know one another, grow together, and most importantly—grow personally.

Here are some ideas to keep your marriage strong, so that you and your spouse can continue to grow and change with one another.

 


Habits of a Healthy Marriage

Pray together

One of the first things our pre-marital counselor told us was to pray together. Powerful things happen when you do this. Not only will it remind you of who is in control of your circumstances, but its gets you both on the same page as to who guides you, directs you, and fights for you.

God is on your side. He didn’t create the most beautiful union so that you could be left to figure it out for yourselves. He wants you to come to him with your struggles, victories, and everything in between.

When you invite God into your marriage, you can begin to fight your battles on the same team, with a God who loves you by your side.


Go to bed together

I know this is hard for some of you. While one person is wanting to go to bed early, the other comes alive at night. I’m not saying you should NEVER go to bed separately, but don’t make it a habit. It’s one of the best ways to keep your marriage strong and healthy.


Eat meals together

Family meals are said to be the best asset in maintaining a healthy marriage and family life.


Don’t take everything so seriously

After being married for ten years, i have finally come to a place where I don’t take things too seriously—I hope this comes earlier for you. I don’t know why, but I finally realized that I can’t control most outcomes, so why even try. I don’t mean in a cynical way, but recognizing that God’s in control type of way.

I can trust that my future, my husband’s future is in good hands.

Choose your battles

This is another aspect that took awhile for us to implement into our marriage. Fight like hell for the battles that will win the war, but let go of the one’s that will destroy everything.

It’s a talent to know what those things are, so pay very close attention—it makes all the difference.


Forgive and move forward

Forgiveness is, in my opinion, the most important goal you should have for you marriage. Check out my blog post…

How to Forgive When You Don’t Feel Like It

 

Trust one another

Another one of those must have goals for a healthy marriage. When you don’t trust one another, you don’t have what it takes to make it through. Trust isn’t something that comes easily in a marriage, so check out my blog about how you can trust one another, especially if something devastating has happened in your marriage.



Cook together

My husband and I go through season of this. I LOVE it when we open a bottle of wine, find a good recipe, and in the kitchen—we work together to create something beautiful and delicious. There is something about food and relationships.

It’s a therapeutic practice that should be implemented into every relationship.

If you aren’t an avid cook, then maybe this is more stressful for you than anything. But I am a little biased—I believe that anyone can cook, and learn how to love it.



Be open ad honest about everything

It’s not easy to always be honest. We might hurt someone with honesty. But trust me, it’s better to be honest than to hide. Once you let little lies and deceit enter your marriage, the little ones become big ones.

From there, your marriage will be fighting an uphill battle that almost never succeeds.



Be on the same team

With your parenting, with your relationships, with your housework. Being on the same team is one of the most important goals you should have as a couple. When you begin to stop fighting one another, and realize you’re on the same team, your relationship will go to a whole new level.

Check out The One Phrase That Will Immediately Stop A Fight



Show physical affection in public

Showing affection to one another in public doesn’t seem like a huge deal. But why should you act differently to the world than you do at home?

Sometimes we worry about what people think, or we just aren’t comfortable. But it’s all the more reason to stop worrying about others, and focus on the health of your relationship. Who cares what the world thinks—and by the way, I bet the only thing they are thinking is, I wish I had that.

 

Call one another throughout the day

Nothing says I love you like a phone call from your loved one. When I look at my phone and see my husbands face on my screen, I still get butterflies in my stomach.

It says that you are thinking about the other person, even when you aren’t together.




Text one another sweet nothings

Texting is a great way to flirt with your spouse, because flirting should NEVER go away in your marriage.



Have a hobby together

My husband and I love to do things with one another. But its wasn’t always that way. We had to learn to give and take a little in this area. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and do things the other person wants to do.

You never know, you just might begin to love it.



Let one another have alone and unwind time

Along with being together, you should also have a healthy balance in that. It’s perfectly healthy and normal to have alone time. In fact, it’s necessary for a strong marriage.



Go on frequent dates

Whether it’s a coffee, a drink, a dinner—make times to get out and about. For some reason when my husband and I go out, it forces us to talk a little more in-depth about our lives. I think part of that is because we are removed from our common space, and can’t get distracted with things that need to be done around the house.

If you have kids, this becomes even more vital.



Go out with your friends, together and alone

Encourage one another in your friendships. People need friends, community, and someone to talk to other than your significant other.

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Encourage one another in your talents and desires

I find it a shame when couples can’t support one another in what they’re good at. This can be damaging to your marriage, and in extremes—end it. If you want your spouse to succeed in life, it’s important that you nurture, encourage, and support them in what they love to do for an occupation.


Have sex at least once a week—better yet twice

A healthy sex life is VITAL in a marriage—for many reason. I don’t think I need to explain exactly why, but let’s just say, it can make or break a relationship. Many people say that only the man needs sex, but I think that absolutely false.

It should be a mutual m=bond, where both partners are equally satisfied. If it’s not, then something is off and don’t be afraid to go get counsel about it. Your marriage will thank you.


Have at least 30 min daily of sharing your heart and mind

Sharing your deepest thoughts and desires are sometimes seen as something you only share with your gal pal. It shouldn’t be this way. The more you open and up and share with your partner, the better. Just make sure you check out how to communicate effectively, first.


Apologize if you did something wrong

No one likes to apologize, but you know as well as I that admitting your wrong usually does amazing things in your marriage. It takes a lot of selflessness to admit you’re wrong. Your partner will see this as an act of love, and a fight that is headed in disaster, can take a quick turn for the better if you can learn to apologize in your marriage.

 

plan a vacation together

Going on vacation does things to people. Do it. Now. Unless you don’t have the money—save up for it.


parent your kids on the same page

This goes hand in hand with having team work. Parenting can be a hard thing for couples to see eye to eye on. But working at having the same mind when it comes to parenting will also be a good things for your children. When you aren’t on the same team, your kids will get confused, they will use it against you—it becomes a big mess.

Just remember that it’s not only important for your children, but also for you.


don’t go to bed angry

Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. This is good advice, people—straight out of the Bible.


Here are the rest that kind of explain themselves.

consider one another more important than yourself

compliment one another for your qualities

talk about the hard things—don’t let them fester

have grace for one another

be patient

show kindness and understanding when they don’t do things the same as you

hold one another to a higher standard, but don’t criticize

learn how to communicate better

don’t tally up one another’s wrongs

do adventurous, outside of your comfort zone things together

make a special meal and have a date night in

spend quality time together


Marriage should be something that you enjoy, just as it was created to do. If you feel alone in your marriage, it can be the most daunting and horrific feeling—worse than being alone and not married.